taking responsibility

Lately I have been noticing things about people. And I want you to know I am saying this because I believe that when I am wrong I admit it and even when I am not wrong I am trying to make amends for what has happened. well sometimes I try to make amends, but sometimes I get fed up and I just have to walk away. But alas that is not what this blog is about really, this blog is about taking responsibility for your actions.

Have you ever noticed that when people get in an argument, or break up with someone, or get "played" by someone, or really get into almost any situation, it is almost always someone else's fault? I just don't get it. Its like no one is paying attention to the situation. Most times we are just believing whatever someone is telling us, and truly keeping our eyes open. And then when something happens to us, its no fault of our own, but the fault of someone else.

As adults, isn't the mature thing to do, to take responsibility for your actions? To admit that maybe you took some wrong turns, made some wrong choices, stayed in a situation too long for you own good? I mean come on. everything that happens to you is not someone else's fault. most times it is because you have made some pretty poor decisions. And i bet if you started to take responsibility, not only would it eliminate alot of drama from your life, but it would also help you to be able to get over situations quickly.

This is a concept that i was not able to comprehend for many years. When I was in college, everything that happened to me was someone else's fault. and boy did I have some drama. Now I still have some baby drama, because unfortunately, my "this person is ridiculous" radar is a little off lately, and I choose to put myself in situations with or around people that i should not be around. But its not like it used to be, and its so much easier for me to walk away, and for me to move on.

Life is a breath of fresh air when I can stand up and say you know what, yea my friend really hurt my feelings, but i can't blame her totally, she shouldn't have been that insensitive, but at the same time, i shouldn't have even been in that situation. Its so much easier to forgive, forget, and keep kick-pushin....

so grow up and take some responsibility for your actions.. please...i don't want to have to start calling people out by name...